Why yes, I would like some salt in my wounds please

April 27, 2007 at 1:45 pm | In First Comes Love - Then Comes... GonalF? |

I’ve stopped counting how many online friends, real-life friends, and family members have successfully reproduced or adopted since we started down this path nigh on three and a half YEARS ago. Dozens. Probably close to fifty. Most of the time I’m fine with it. Occasionally something stings. And then there are the third degree burns.

Today Pili & I both got cards in the mail from our fertility clinic, where the four remaining embryos-of- certain-arguments-and-tears rest in their chilly freezer. The outside of the card features an adorable picture of a child in a lion-suit and invites us to “Party with the Animals!” On the inside: “Insensitive Tactless Fertility Inc. Invites You to Celebrate Ten Years With Us at the Zoo! Barbecue… Clowns… Magicians… Face Painting… FUN!”

Don’t you think they could’ve screened the mailing list to leave out us failures? Would that have been so fucking hard?

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Good grief! That is truly terrible and totally tactless (sorry for the alliteration). Clods.

Comment by Alex — April 27, 2007 #
fuckers.

Comment by j — April 27, 2007 #
that is pretty fucking obnoxious. what were they *thinking*?!

Comment by Cat, Galloping — April 27, 2007 #
If I were a lion, I would eat every last one of them. Bastards.

Comment by Nicolep — April 27, 2007 #
Are. you. kidding. me? Good grief.

Comment by Megan — April 27, 2007 #
That’s just crap and inexcusable. And unnecessarily painful, no doubt. Sorry you had to see that.

Comment by vee — April 27, 2007 #
I am sick with anger. I am so sorry A-S and tell Pili I am sorry too. What A-holes.

Comment by George — April 27, 2007 #
That just sucks!!!! How tactless and reprehensible! I’m so sorry.

Comment by Journeywoman — April 27, 2007 #
I hope you have a shredder.

Comment by Minnesota Nice — April 27, 2007 #
That’s just inexcusable. What were they thinking?

Comment by BrooklynGirl — April 27, 2007 #
Oh, my God. It is hard to imagine our clinic ever doing such a thing, but if they did, I truly hope they would, as you suggest, only invite people for whom their services were useful. Really, that’s virtually criminal.

Comment by Lo — April 27, 2007 #
Wow. Wow. Man, that’s worse than getting vaccine reminders for the cat that’s been dead for two years. Wow.
What assholes.

Comment by Estelle — April 27, 2007 #
Are you freaking kidding me? That is unbelievably insensitive! Reminds me of the time that my old clinic had a baby shower for one of the nurses…in the waiting room…

Comment by Meredith — April 27, 2007 #
Art, I am so very sorry. Sending you and Pili big hugs. I wish I could do something to help your pain. Your family has our most healing positive thoughts and prayers.

Comment by Vivian — April 27, 2007 #
God, I don’t even know what to say. That’s just horrible.

Comment by Jill — April 27, 2007 #
That is so shitty (if you don’t mind me saying that).

Comment by Rachel — April 27, 2007 #
Art, honey, give me their number, I’ll call them and give them the suggestion…

Comment by shelli — April 27, 2007 #
I’m with shelli - CONFERENCE CALL!

Comment by jane — April 28, 2007 #
Indeed–would you write them a letter telling them just how thoughtless their invitation is?

Comment by Lyrehca — April 28, 2007 #
A-s and Pili

That just stinks. I’m really sorry it happened. And I imagine you won’t ever want to deal with these folks again. But you probably ought to let them know.

Comment by Bernard Farrell — April 28, 2007 #
omg that is bloody disgusting.i’m so sorry.

Comment by vicki — April 28, 2007 #
That takes the Asshole of the Year Award. Sorry you had to receive that in the mail. I assume it’s filed away nicely at the bottom of the trash?

Comment by annmarie — April 28, 2007 #
That is so horrible! They should definitely screen those! How insensitive can you get?

Comment by Co — April 28, 2007 #
Oh hun, that’s awful. Sometimes it seems as if the world is just constantly throwing out reminders of our unfulfilled needs and wants. Be strong and give them a call or a letter. They need to get their act together and respect all fo their clients, those with babies and those who are still struggling to become parents one way or another.

Comment by NIcole — April 28, 2007 #
OUCH!
Are you going to clue them in?

Comment by Calliope — April 28, 2007 #
Oh man, how awful and tactless!

Comment by erinberry — April 28, 2007 #
What a strange bad idea that was… Yuck.
I remember the ONE week where four of my closest friends each told me they were pregnant. Somewhere, deep deep deep down I was happy for them…but (much closer to the surface), I wanted to punch each of them in the head.

Soon. I know it doesn’t feel soon…but it’s soon.

Comment by Joanna — April 28, 2007 #
Oh AS, that is insensitive. *hugs* to you and Pili.

Comment by caramaena — April 29, 2007 #
Say WHAT?! A fucking fertility clinic did that? That is horrible. I’m really sorry.

Comment by lagiulia — April 29, 2007 #