Clearing skies

June 22, 2006 at 10:50 am | In AdoptThis!, Bringing Home the Bacon, PiliPiliPili, The Sweet Life | 2 Comments

Thanks so much for all your love the last couple of days.

I had a good, sky clearing howl last night, brought on by the crime of Pili egregiously failing to listen to me twice. I’m still sad - I loved what I did at Job that Does Not Blow - and I loved the professional credibility that I got from working there. But the plusses of having some more time on my hands - to finish the Thesis, to work on my photography, to do what I can on the adoption paperwork, are definitely there. Adoption paperwork: SIGH. As I’ve mentioned, Pili has to do a lot of these things herself. She is, I think it’s fair to say, slightly less detail oriented (i.e. anal) than I am, and also less comfortable being firm with people. So she doesn’t insist on the right language the first time around, in the face of snotty bank employees for example, and then it turns out we have she has to go back and do it again. And I feel like the ultimate back seat driver, wishing I could just do it myself.

On the subject of Smokey and her recent crankiness: A second bolus cleared things up yesterday, and I had a stellar evening, capped off by a workout without Unfortunate Eating Incidents(!)

But I finally gave in and changed my site about 18 hours early (and took an injection) this morning after another unexplained high. There was a puffy little bubble there which oozed insulin when I took the site out. Moral of the story: Listen to Julia. And Lyrecha.

The Big Picture

May 31, 2006 at 12:29 pm | In PiliPiliPili | 9 Comments

According to the trail guide, the ascent alongside the babbling brook was so gradual - and the view so beautiful - as to be hardly noticable. Although the brook was lovely, the ascent was decidely noticable. Especially given that everytime we stopped to catch our breath and admire the view we were besieged by gnats determined to explore our mucous membranes.

(Note to gnats: You can pick your friends. And apparently you’ve picked me. You can pick your nose (do gnats have noses? gnoses?). But you cannot pick your friend’s nose. Please keep this in mind for my next hike. Thank you.)

The trail continued on past several impressive beaver ponds, so that when we reached the pondlet on the left hand side of this picture, we were not sure whether we had reached our intermediate goal - the lake shown here - or just another beaver pond.

View from the top

We were hungry. We were ready to be at the lake and stop for lunch. The question “don’t you think you should test?” had been advanced with increasing degrees of certainty on Pili’s part, met by increasing degrees of irritation on my part. The map and the trail description did not match. We continued on the trail, looking for the side trail that would supposedly lead us down to the lake lunch. The trail ascended, steeply.

Screw this, we decided. We don’t care if it’s a beaver pond. We’re eating lunch there. We turned around. And found the trail.

Looking down from above, it’s clear that, as we discovered when we strolled down the trail, the little pondlet we came on at first is part of a bigger lake.

With two adoption agency interviews under our belts, I’m feeling a little less overwhelmed by the trail in front of us. A little more convinced that this will, someday, somehow, lead to a child.

The rest of the story:

I tested (101, thank you) ate lunch, and we headed up the mountain. These mountains, they do not mess around. Knowing what “gradual ascent” meant to the writers of the trail guide, we were not suprised that “rugged and steep” translated to “rocky and just short of a 90 degree angle.”

On the way back down, Pili decided that she would go for a nice refreshing dip in the lake. We hadn’t seen anyone else on the trail all day. Fortunately, I decided not to go in, after dipping one toe in the glacial water. She had just waded in, in all her natural glory, when I heard someone the ranger coming down the trail. (Aside: Does anyone know why it’s called skinny-dipping? And is it still skinny-dipping if you’re not skinny?)

We got back to the campground and discovered our friends had come up to camp as well, bringing lobster and corn to grill, along with smores fixings. All in all, a very relaxing and much needed trip.

Tomorrow: When smokey sings…

I never promised you a segue

May 15, 2006 at 1:30 pm | In Photo Friday, PiliPiliPili | 5 Comments

We went to our friends’ wedding this past weekend. It rained a lot, which sucked, because we had hoped to get some nice hikes in, and because they had planned on an outdoor ceremony and had to move it indoors.

Despite that, the wedding was really wonderful. It’s the only queer wedding I’ve been to, besides my own, and they adapted parts of their vows from ours. Watching them face each other with tears in their eyes as they said the same words we did brought us both back to our own wedding. Pili and I squeezed each others’ hands and thought about how far we’ve traveled together in the past year and how much further we hope to travel together in the year to come.

These are the words we spoke that day.

I give you my hand and my love.

I take you to be no other than yourself, loving what I know of you, trusting what I do not yet know, with respect for your integrity, and faith in your love for me.

I promise to care for and comfort you and to be your ally, in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer, faithfully loving each other as long as we both shall live.

And I meant every word of it.

The topic for this weeks’s Photo Fill-in-the-day-of-the-week was your best vacation photos. In light of what’s on our minds this week, I thought I would post some more photos from our trip to India. While I’m not sure they’re my best vacation photos ever, they’re what matters to me right now.

This is a fertility shrine in the courtyard of the Meenakshi temple in Madurai.

The cobra head figurines are fertility symbols called Nagas. The cradles hanging in and around the banyan tree are given to the goddess by women grateful for her assistance in bringing them a child.

Banyan Tree & Nagas

Naga

Cradles

And then this photo from our trip to Japan. Inbetween fits of paralyzing anxiety, my joy at this potential pregnancy has been as sweet and pure as what I see on the laughing girl’s face. I hope I can hold onto some of that joy no matter what Wednesday’s ultrasound turns up.

Schoolgirls in the Rain

On the phone today at work, someone wished me a happy mother’s day.

I hope she knows something I don’t.

Interview Meme, Part III

May 7, 2006 at 9:27 pm | In More than you ever wanted to know about me..., Pass it On (Memes), PiliPiliPili | 7 Comments

Answering your questions:

Q. How did Pili and I meet?

A. Once upon a time, long, long, ago, in a City With More Than Four Thai Restaurants, Pili & Art-Sweet met. Pili was a gradual student at the University where Art-Sweet was an under-gradual. Nonetheless, the two might never have met, except that they both were taking karate classes at a dojo somewhat removed from the University of Gradual Studies. The two began car-pooling together. Despite the fact that Art-Sweet immediately gasped, “oh my g-d I have had such a big crush on her,” upon learning the identity of Pili’s ex, Pili and Art-Sweet slowly became friends.

Over the next year, the friendship gradually became more flirtatious, but Pili was adamently opposed to dating an undergradual. Once Art-Sweet gradualated, romance had a chance to bloom - except that Pili had left the City With More Than Four Thai Restaurants for a Small Town Five Hours Away. Art-Sweet came to Small Town to visit Pili, after Pili made a uncharacteristically bold but greatly appreciated telephonic pass at Art-Sweet. Art-Sweet was all in favor of a fun weekend fling, as it had been Way Too Long since, you know. She arrived on Pili’s doorstep starving, having failed to find edible food along the midwestern highways. Pili swept her off her feet by feeding her homemade Indian food, and um. To the great surprise of both parties, the Fun Weekend Thing turned out to be Much More. Months of long car trips and indentured servitude to SW Airlines and AT&T followed. And the rest, as they say…

Q. What will I miss most after the baby is here let’s cross that bridge after the first trimester is over?

A. Sleep, probably. And time with Pili. I also suspect my cats will be sorely neglected.

Q. What is my favorite curse word?

A. Crap, I don’t know. How the crap do you expect me to answer that? Oh wait, yes I do.

Q. If I could live anywhere, where would I live?

A. I’m really pretty easy to please, within certain very narrow parameters. Diverse population. Easy, legal second parent adoption (or even better, legal marriage). Metropolitan area with good mass transit, lots of museums, and ethnic restaurants. Summers not too terribly hot. Access to the Great Outdoors relatively easy. If I had enough money, I’d love to live in NYC again, or the Bay area, although I would miss my family if I lived on the West Coast. The City With More Than Four Thai Restaurants would definitely do as well. Or Toronto, perhaps?

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